Monday, February 4, 2008

I want it all and I want it now.

"Yuppies' creed: 'I want it all and I want it now.'"
—Russell Baker, New York Times, February 6, 1988

I've been pondering what I've learned about the things in my heart from my dream.

contentment and coveting

They really are two sides of a coin. I didn't see it at first, even though it seems obvious. The Lord wants me to be content. The reason that I am not is because I'm coveting. I asked myself what it is that I really want and I began to realize that I want it all!

If you know me in my everyday life you probably wouldn't guess that about me. You would think I am not in want of anything. (or maybe I don't hide it as well as I think) This is because I never articulate these longings.........they are all in my head or my heart......swimming around. They are expecations that I am subconsciously striving toward.

So I thought I would make a list and get them out once and for all. This makes me feel sooooooo painfully vulnerable. But here goes:
  1. I WANT an impeccably clean and organized home.

  2. I WANT a bigger home in a more prestigious neighborhood.

  3. I WANT a better and more physically fit body.

  4. I WANT to be valued and recognized in all my roles (wife, mother, employee, bible study leader, etc).

  5. I WANT everyone to like me.

Now on a conscious level I am very aware how blessed I truly am. The Lord has actually given me the desires of my heart! I have a wonderful and handsome husband, two lovely girls, and lots of quality relationships, a really nice home in a great neighborhood, a housecleaner, and a great job in my own home. Life is not without it's tensions but generally, it's pretty good.

However, on a deeper level, I have set some standards and expectations for myself and at any given time I am responding to the fact that I am not meeting those standards.

When others aren't helping me to accomplish my goals I get resentful and critical.

When I am not meeting my standards, I get angry at myself.

I am in a constant state of striving.

I get anxious and hurt when I don't get the recognition or attention that I feel I'm entitled to.

Oh, this is sooooo cleansing. When I lay it out like this it seems so silly. It's okay to have goals - but ones that are doable and I don't have to get harry if it doesn't happen. And it's okay to enjoy the fruits of my labour and the blessings of God without setting my heart upon the things of this world....without wanting more. I desire to live in a state of gratitude not striving!

I can actully see these WANTS piled up on a big barge which I am shoving off to sea. The barge is floating farther and farther away and I'm feeling more and more detached from it........weightless.....peaceful.

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.........



8 comments:

Happy said...

Ruth, what a lovely post. Again, thank you for your honesty. It's so brave.

I think we may be long-lost sisters or something... :) I too have a very tall list of self-set expectations towards which I strive with all the wrong motivation all too often. Thanks for the challenge to rethink that...

peace,
Happy :)

Ruth said...

Happy - thanks for the encouragement. Yes I think we are kindred spirits in more ways than one.

I commend you for braving the inner journey. From what I can tell you are in your 20's. I didn't even start thinking about these things until my 30's and I turned 40 last year. However, I think this will be the best decade of my life!

Bless you sister....

Rob Harrison said...

I can't really add anything here, but I did want to echo Hap: that's a lovely post, Ruth.

Ruth said...

Thanks Rob....and thanks for providing my opening line. I thought it was appropriate.

Happy said...

Ruth, you're so sweet. It's been awhile since I've been mistaken for a 20something. :) I'm 32 actually. (They've recently extended the age-limit for our group at church to be 18-35...I suspect this is in part to avoid losing their worship director... lol.)

And I think your new decade is off to a brilliant start. :) Thanks for sharing some of it with us.

Ruth said...

Well Happy, that explains why you seemed so wise to me for a 20 something!

It seems when women get into their 30's they begin the inward journey and you are well on your way. I love reading your insights you post on your blog.

Anonymous said...

yeah, i have to say taht i love reading your stuff. it's just so exciting to see someone going through the same spiritual lessons.

as well as coming to similar conclusions. yet from circumstances that are as different and night and day... how crazy is that?

god is so cool.

jennyhope said...

I love this part and how the psalmist prays for the Lord to turn his eyes from worthless things. Lord help us all!! This is so what I was feeling!! Thanks for linking to it! =)

It's okay to have goals - but ones that are doable and I don't have to get harry if it doesn't happen. And it's okay to enjoy the fruits of my labour and the blessings of God without setting my heart upon the things of this world....without wanting more. I desire to live in a state of gratitude not striving!